I’m Kat Vellos, author of We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships. As a Connection Coach, I help adults create the thriving friendships and community they yearn for.

I’m deeply committed to facilitating positive transformation for individuals and groups. Over the last two decades, I’ve coached and mentored people through a range of challenges and personal growth experiences. I’ve been facilitating since 2001, became a certified facilitator in 2005, have been studying friendship since 2015, and was certified as a coach in 2020.

My specialty is friendship and community. I’m here to help you learn, grow, and thrive according to your individual hopes, dreams, and goals in the realm of platonic connection.

How I can help

As a Connection Coach, I help clients with things like:

• Making new friends
• Creating a friend group or a deeper sense of community
• Deepening friendships that feel too light or superficial
• Maintaining long-distance friendships
• Navigating and healing friendship conflicts
• Healing after a friendship breakup
• Being a great friend to yourself so you can experience greater joy, self-expression, peace, and wellbeing

Book a Coaching & Strategy Session

During this deep dive session, we’ll unpack the challenges you’re facing with friendship and connection, then come up with a tangible action plan for you to move forward with. Come with all your friendship questions, challenges, and dreams!

FAQs

How long is the session and how much does it cost?
Sessions are 90-120 minutes and cost $299. We’ll meet over zoom and you'll have access to the recording any time you want to revisit it. 

What’s your availability?
Sessions can be booked between 9am-7pm Pacific time, on Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays. View open slots here.

Why is this a standalone session?
Unlike a lot of other practitioners that want to get you hooked on endless sessions until the end of time, my goal is to help you make such fantastic headway in this session that you probably won’t need another. But if you want to add additional sessions for new topics in the future, you’re certainly welcome to.

Implementing a plan and seeing improvement takes time. That’s why we create an action plan for you to then go forward and implement over the coming weeks and months.

If, at any time during your implementation process, you discover that you want extra support, you can book additional sessions to troubleshoot any new challenges or to help you get unblocked.

I need help, but cost is an issue. What should I do?
If your company offers wellness benefits or reimburses you for personal development expenses, I highly encourage you to see if they would reimburse you for your coaching sessions.

If you need help for less than $20, I recommend reading my book, We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships, and doing the activities included in there.

If you need help for free, I give tons of free advice in my blog and podcast interviews.

Words of encouragement

If you’ve never done it before, it might seem unusual to hire someone to help you solve your challenges with friendship and community, but it’s no different than going to a specialist to help you solve any other problem whether that problem is with your fitness, your car, your teeth, or your career.

Ask yourself: What is it costing you emotionally to not have this problem solved? How much would it be worth to you to finally have the connection and fulfillment you crave?