The Better Conversations Kit
ARE YOU…
Tired of generic conversation starters like: How are you? Where are you from? How was your day at school?
Craving better conversations but still want them to feel natural and organic?
Wanting to deepen your friendships and relationships with conversations that light you up?
Congrats! You’re in the right place.
The Better Conversations Kit is inspired by my "Alternatives to How Are You" posts that went viral in 2021.
I thought I was the only one who was sick of that question... Nope! Thousands of people across all my social media accounts felt the same way. Hundreds of people wrote back expressing their frustration at that overly generic question and the way it's frequently used as a throwaway greeting instead of a true inquiry into another person's wellbeing. They were craving honest, high-quality conversation instead but weren’t always sure how to make that happen.
I’m with you. I believe that by communicating with more thoughtfulness and creativity, our conversations can become places where we all feel more seen, heard, valued, and understood — and where we have a lot more fun.
The Better Conversations Kit will give you the words to improve your conversations in every area of your life, all year long. Use its questions and alternate greetings with your friends, coworkers, partners, family, community groups, or anyone you'd like to connect with in a fresh and authentic way.
Yours now for only $12
Suggested uses: Each month, set a different page as your computer’s desktop background. If you choose to print it out, each page is 11” W x 8.5” L
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See why community builders extraordinaire PRIYA PARKER, CHAD LITTLEFIELD, and CARRIE MELISSA JONES are excited about the Better Conversations Calendar/Kit.
“I use this amazing tool every day.” — Carrie Melissa Jones
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What people are saying
Prefer it as a calendar?
The Better Conversations Kit is also available as a printable DIY calendar. The DIY calendar kit comes with helpful tips for creating a high-quality durable calendar at home.
Fans say:
“Just a note to thank you for the calendar. We had a great Christmas chat with the family on Zoom because of it. My wife DM’ed during the chat with “You’re a hero”. That never hurt.”
“I love your content! I plan on using the Better Conversations calendar to further coach my real estate team, and even my own family.”
“I just had to email you to thank you for the amazing calendar! I finally had a chance to REALLY look at it this morning and I am convinced it will be life-changing for me. The older I get, the less skilled I feel at having meaningful conversations and the more I long for them. Then the pandemic came along and I am so out of practice in having conversations. There are so many amazing ideas in your calendar that I feel more hopeful than I have in a long time.”
FAQs
What exactly is this?
It’s a digital kit that gives you an entire year’s worth of conversation starters to spark authentic connection and better conversations in all parts of your life. Each month you can try fresh alternatives to the typical small talk questions like:
• How are you?
• Where are you from?
• How was school/work today?
• What did you do this weekend?
… Replace those questions with over 325+ better alternatives all in the kit which is yours forever. By going beyond these basics, you open up entirely new worlds of authentic connection with colleagues, friends, and people in your life. When you open your conversations with a new question or a sincere statement, there’s a good chance that the other person will be surprised and delighted to hear it.
How can I place a bulk order for multiple licenses? I want to give this to my staff, conference attendees, and community groups, and I want to make sure that you’re compensated fairly.
Thanks for your enthusiasm, love to see it. Please send me a message here, letting me know how many kit licenses you’d like to purchase. I’ll be in touch.
What other goodies do you have for having better conversations and stronger friendships?
You might like my Better than Small Talk cards, and my books. We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships will give you the tools to experience more success and joy when making and maintaining friendships in adulthood. Connected from Afar: A Guide for Staying Close When You're Far Away is an itty bitty addendum to We Should Get Together that gives you six months’ worth of weekly connection prompts that you can use with a faraway friend.
About the creator
Kat Vellos is a trusted expert on the power of cultivating meaningful connections. Her focus is on adult friendship, community-building, and creating healthy work environments.
She’s the author of We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships which was called “marvelous” in a starred review by BookLife, a subsidiary of Publishers Weekly. Kirkus Reviews gave the book glowing reviews which are echoed in consumer reviews on Amazon. Since its release in January 2020, it’s been helping adults around the world heal from disconnection and loneliness.
Kat has twenty years’ of experience creating communities where people find belonging and authentic connection. A veteran facilitator, she founded Better than Small Talk and Bay Area Black Designers which was profiled by Forbes. Kat’s approach to connection is informed by her background as a researcher and UX designer. She’s worked for Slack, Pandora, and multiple Silicon Valley startups. She’s been a speaker at TEDx Talks, SF Design Week, Design for America, Social Good Tech Week, the Transforming Loneliness Summit, and more. Her writing and interviews have appeared in The New York Times, Communication Arts, Forbes, Thrive Global, AIGA, Design Feast, and many more.
Through her books, products, courses, and speaking engagements, Kat’s work has helped thousands of people experience greater wellness and fulfillment through thriving platonic relationships.
Learn about Kat’s professional services and book her to speak